That Doesn’t Jive

Show up on time

So, we have started Lent and one of the actions that our church is taking is encouraging people to arrive “on time” which to them is 5-10 minutes early.

I’ve got a couple thoughts on that.

I show up to mass early (99% of the time) and it irritates me those times that the priest isn’t there and doesn’t start on time, (which is usually the same priest every time.)

That doesn’t jive!

Pot calling the kettle black?  If you want me to be there early, start mass on time.

Also, I propose that people arrive late and leave early because they are in a state of rebellion, which may be conscious or unconscious.  Born and raised Catholic, you HAVE to go to mass every weekend.  HAVE TO.  It is a COMMANDMENT. It is an OBLIGATION.

So, I propose that those folks coming late or leaving early are staying faithful to their obligation but internally saying, “I don’t have a choice to go, but I am going to say when I get there and when I leave.  They can’t control me that way.”

The reality is that we really do have a choice to go or not.  Oh wait a minute, then we are committing a MORTAL SIN if we don’t go.  So then we have to go to confession before we go to communion as the little prayer at the beginning of mass only forgives venial sins, right?  I think I got that right…all these rules and regulations.

So our choice is to not go and commit a mortal sin or go and express our autonomy by saying when we go and leave and even what we wear.  All forms of rebellion in my opinion.

So what’s the answer?

I wonder what would happen if we could choose to go?  If the preaching and the music and the message drew us in.  DREW US IN.  Made us WANT to be there.  That might be a game changer wouldn’t it?  I think that’s why Willow Creek and Joel Osteen have such big dynamic followings.  Those folks WANT to be there! They don’t HAVE to be there.

I remember growing up as a kid and walking into church finding out it was Father so-and-so doing the mass and I turned around and groaned and my mother grabbed my shirt and whipped me around and I was berated to disliking the preacher, his methods, his style.  Not allowed.

Well, I am a adult now

and I still struggle.

And I HATE being motivated by guilt.

So what is my choice?

Own my God-given free-will.  Process all the wounding I feel having grown up in the Catholic church.  And make decisions without a hidden agenda of having to prove anything.  Just be in relationship with HIM.

That’s still a work in progress.

A Daily work in progress.

What time do you get to mass?

Get in this century please

So my last post was about the things I love about being Catholic. This is about one of the things I don’t like. We went to mass in a town about 25 min from us after an event I attended. The church was packed but all of the music was not from this century! Literally. 

And that is how most churches are. The organ or piano pounding out the notes written by a guy born in 1650. 

So I said to my husband. We now have electrics lights and cars that run with gas and even electric cars-why can’t mass be upbeat and current ?! Tastes change. Fashion changes. It’s no wonder the younger generation doesn’t like to go to mass. And Teen masses once a month aren’t cutting it either! 

Please please please get in this century! I don’t believe it is sacrilegious or disrespectful to have music with a beat that you can dance to. King David danced all the time in worship to the Lord. Perhaps Catholics wouldn’t be flocking to other worship services if we made some updates. 

Can I get an Amen? 

Top 10 things I love about being Catholic

Even though the title of my website is Clear the Catholic Guilt, it doesn’t mean I don’t practice my faith. I just wanted to be released from the negativity and incorrect messages that I picked up over the years, lots of it having to do with guilt- you know the phrase, “Good ole’ Catholic Guilt” which is usually  followed with a chuckle. Laughing about feeling guilty…that part doesn’t jive with me.

So I wanted to list the things I love about being Catholic:  churchd-20

  1. The Universality.  I LOVE that when we travel, we can find a mass within minutes of where we are.
  2. The Uniqueness of each parish.  I LOVE that when we travel, we can find a mass within minutes of  where we are and though I can expect pretty similar things, it is fun to experience the personality of each individual parish.
  3. Lots of opportunities to attend.  No matter where you are, chances are you can make a mass on Saturday night and have multiple options on Sunday.
  4. There’s a bond there.  When I say I am Catholic, no doubt about 75% of the room claims or claims to have once been Catholic.  Because my mission is to help heal the wounds damaged Catholics have, I don’t have to go to far to find them. (which I guess isn’t necessarily a good thing either. I guess I’ll have to list this in the “My top 10 things I don’t like about being Catholic” post next)
  5. There’s lots of us.  Like I said above, about 75% of the where I am are practicing or were once practicing Catholics.
  6. It’s The First One.  Though there are many Christian denominations and churches out there that branched out of the Protestant movement, doing great things, there is only one church started by Jesus Christ himself.
  7. There are graces for just showing up.  Due to the nature of the sacraments, which are God’s gift of grace to us, we can just show up to Confession, show up to mass and still get benefit.  This was a great consolation as a mother of 7 who spent much of mass in the narthex with active little ones as they were growing up.
  8. We have great parties connected to the sacraments.  I loved hosting and attending parties after First Communion, Confirmation, Weddings, etc.  My husband and I renew our vows every 5 years after a mass and then have a celebration after.
  9. Something for everyone.  Depending on your personality and interests, there is an opportunity for you to grow and live out your personal faith.  If you are into social justice, evangelization or worship, to name a few, you can find ways and groups that you can connect with.
  10. True Presence of Jesus in the Eucharist.  Like He said in John 6: 52-69.  I love receiving his body into my body at mass and also just sitting with Him at adoration.

So those are my favorite things about being Catholic.  What are yours?  Please reply and let me know if we have anything the same.

That doesn’t jive with me

I struggle with some things in the Catholic Church.  Things, but probably more accurately, things that people do.  I’ve decided to vent with the topic title, “The Doesn’t Jive.” It’s crap like this that turns people away from the church.  BUT…the church is a God-made entity with human beings running it. I believe we must remember they are human, however there must be accountability for behavior. A couple of things that I jotted down last Saturday night as I wondered WHY…

…The authority of our parish consistently preaches about getting to mass early and clockimagesstaying through the  last song BUT one of the priests more often than not starts mass 3-4 minutes late?  That doesn’t jive!


…People in charge of teach high school kids how to pray silently BUT immediately turn on music?  That painmandoesn’t jive!


…I find most of the messages I hear preached about money are negative- it is the root of all evil, we shouldn’t love it, debt is bad, BUT they are always asking us for it!  That doesn’t jive!

This stuff being said, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING is that we have a PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with our Lord and Savior in order for us to discern our course of action.  Yes, people do things within the church that don’t jive, but that doesn’t mean we stop having a relationship with HIM.  THAT doesn’t jive at all.